This is such a cliche-non violence. do we really know what it means? what is REALLY means?
I had a practice session some time back with a person called, Adam. I remembered this exeperience vividly because of what came to me after the class. My practice session with him was rather a contest of supremacy and it was intense enough for me to think deeply.
When face with violence. Will i fight? I came to a conclusion that fighting, if futile, it would be better to give up my life. to abstain from violence. Looking at the ‘bigger’ picture’, my struggle against violence to live is so minuscule. even if i were to live, it wouldn’t mean much. so between my life and taking the other person’s life, i choose to give mine up. why fight over something as insignificant as my life?
I struggled with that resolution, it nagged me because it was not perfect, something will be lost eventually, my life. so it still did not elude the dualistic trap, therefore it is not the best option. until something else came up.
To just just give up my life in a violent life-threatening situation is too simplistic. Well, I might as well kill myself now, if that is the case, because any situation can turn life threatening in the blink of an eye. so why live?
Now I work towards an ideal. that if this situation presents itself, and it becomes a ‘fight or flight’ there is another option, diffusion. Our practice must take us past, giving my life for the sake of the situation, taking his life so that he doesn’t take mine. We must endeavour to reach a point where the our opponent finds it helpless, pointless, useless, meaningless, to fight, in our presence, not just fight us. We have to be skilled in diffusing violence with our presence, we cannot do so being dead, so we have to live and eliminate violence with non violence. When we are approached with a life threatening situation, we can walk away from it, not hurting anyone, not getting hurt as well. this is the highest order, formless form of martial arts. That is non violence.