We get too attached to the ‘I’, so much so that the ‘I’ becomes us. I saw a post by my colleague, Angela, on her MSN that reads: “Your biggest fear should be fear itself.” I have problems accepting the personification of the ‘My fear’.
Personal pronouns are fine, but overuse of the personal pronouns, gives the pronouns personality, instead of keeping it in the realm of functionality. All the ‘Me’, ‘You’, ‘Them’, ‘Mine’ and so on…what actually belongs to ‘me’?
So how does ‘your fear’ differs from ‘my fear’? does ‘your fear’ has a kinda distinctive selling proposition? How is it brought about that is so unique that you can ‘own’ that fear? Come on! Fear! I wouldn’t want to own a piece of that! Ecstasy, joy, yes i would like to know ‘my ecstasy’, ‘my joy’. Then again do we really own them?
Do we really own anything? Just because we buy things, does it means that ‘it’ belongs to us? we shan’t delve into the material attachment, cos that is another whole cesspool altogether.
Its the feelings that we feel. How can we say it belongs to us? When a Aikidoka says, ‘your irimi nage sucks!’ which part? what’s done is already in the past, in the chronological backyard. Besides, I don’t own the irimi nage. the technique does not belongs to me, the ‘me’ is just a vessel to manifest the movement of irimi nage, that’s all, judgments aside, it might have sucked, so what? its over! Wham Bam Thank You Ma’am!
So let’s not get caught in the ‘me’ thing. there is really, really nothing that we own, and nothing that we can really own. All that we have and held, happens because of goodwill, and the willingness of other to allow us that ownership.
As much as possible, I try to avoid saying. ‘My pen.’ and says ‘this pen i have’ Some Buddhist goes even as far as to say, when you introduce yourself, instead of saying, ‘Hi, I am Randy.’ say ‘People call me Randy’. its sound funny but after a while, when you get the hang of it, you’ll get wisdom in doing so. Sounds irresponsible? This is the direction to freedom, if freedom has a direction to begin with. ha ha.