I had a conversation with Steve the other day about his new condominium, he mentioned to me that his wife, Kat, would like to keep the place spartan, clean with no clutter. And accuses him of cluttering the current abode with’his stuff’. my ‘stuff?’ Steve exclaimed. Kat went on to mention a list of his ‘stuff’ like his artwork, his drawings, surfboards, clothings etcetera.
Steve want the stuffs disposed of, since, well these are material stuff, and anyway he will be buying some more of it. More importantly, the point here is the stuffs which held memories, like some old photographs he’d shown me the other day, about his ship designing days, dated circa 1970s. These items hold memories. but he came to a decision, ‘Throw them away!’
His rationale is that we are all born to die, and when we die, these material stuffs will be a chore to clear for the living, at for some emotionally painful to clear. So since he is still around, why not do the clearing now? it will be cleared eventually, and since all these stuffs cannot be freight fowarded to the next life, heaven or hell, why not dispose of them? Surely some of thesde stuffs hold memory-value, other than that, there is nothing else useful. Things that are of value to us and useful to us, are only known to us. Some of his technical drawings will never be understood by Kat, and neither will Kat be using his surfboard anytime soon, so why keep it, after Steve is long dead and gone?
This kind of conversation upsets Kat, and I’m sure it will upset my wife just at much, think about it, pragmatically. Who else will use my bokken long after I’m dead? and who else will continue this blog, long after i am dead???