I think what I am about to write is technically transferable as an experience and/or learning.
For those who hasn’t heard about ‘The Blind Men and the Elephant’ you can refer to this link, http://www.noogenesis.com/pineapple/blind_men_elephant.html (ps, I am NOT promoting this website. it is a matter of convenience, there is a lot more other versions is you goggle it)
The whole gist of it is that 3 blind men, touched the elephant at its different parts, one touched the tail and remarked, ‘So! an elephant is like a snake!’ the other blind man touched the leg, and remarked ‘So! An elephant is like a tree trunk!’ the thirst touched the Elephant’s tusk and remarked ,”So! an Elephant is like a spear!’
Aikido is like this, when we practise the art, is Aikido liken a Snake, Tree Trunk or a Spear? And when we engaged our Uke, do we engage our Uke with our ‘Snake’, ‘Tree Trunk’ or the ‘Spear’ element of Aikido? Or do we present the entire Aikido Elephant in its full glory? Can we?
Similarly in life, when we meet a person, for the first time, we came up with our initial opinion about the person. He is an ‘asshole’ then again on a different day, he might be a pretty nice guy. Whenever we use our intellect to judge a person, we will miss out the larger picture as our intellect is only a part of us, interacting with a part of the other fella. What other sensory faculties can we bring in to make the parts a little more whole? Our kinesthetic feeling? We must always be mindful that if we are not careful we might assume the parts as whole, instead of simply the sum of its parts, makes whole.
There is nothing wrong to assume that an ‘Elephant’ is a spear, that is a start, we need to move on, feel other parts of the elephant. Once we have the contact, we mustn’t let go, feel more, work around the ‘spear’ to other parts of the elephant’s body, only then can we realise that the elephant is a spear, snake, trunk and more, much, much more.