This post is inspired by a Dharma talk by Mr Gil Fronstal, from Insight Meditation Centre in San Fransisco, also titled Meeting Yourself.
Everyday, we are faced with a myriad of situations and problems, and we wear many, many hats, performed many, many roles. Since Humans are such complex creatures, so capable of multi tasking, we often come to a realization of not knowing who we really are. And we when we face the facing, looking at us in the mirror, we wonder to ourselves how did we get there?
Well, there is no one else, except you, meeting yourself. You can be driving, you can be a teacher, you can be ill, you can be an Aikidoka, but all these are nothing but roles, faces and hats, we take on. we have to bring ourselves to meet these roles, these challenges.
To meet these challenges is to mean that we cannot anticipate them, and in anticipation, we create our own problem. Life is not about preparation, forecasting and anticipation, it is about meeting.
Meeting must take place in a non judgmental manner. We are not preparing a meet, we simply, meet. We meet with openness, with sincerity. There is nothing else that can better prepare us, than ourselves.
So when in the Aikido realm, we cannot stop our Uke, we cannot anticipate our uke’s move, we can only meet our uke, and the point of meeting will decide the outcome, sometimes we meet too soon, and gave away our advantage, and sometimes too late, and our advantage becomes irrelevant. We train so that we meet in just the right space and time, only then our uke can sense a level of equanimity which creates no reason for a counter attack.When you meet correctly, everything falls in place, nicely.
So our uke is not our uke, but a reflection of us, and we meeting the external ‘us’. Anyone can be a uke, or any ‘thing’ can be an uke. a pen a keyboard, a feeling. we must meet all with a level of respect, trust and openness. And this takes place every micro nano second of our life. and we have to be utmost conscious about it, any lapse and we fall into retrospection, we lose our initiative, and momentum. Life grabs us by the balls, instead of us grabbing life by the balls.
So go out there and meet, whatever you are faced with, meet it, them him, her, it, with grace, confidence and timing.