Let’s go back to the time where the guitar was first invented. Someone, strung some string and created a tension, and by disrupting that tension a sound was created, and lo and behold! A melody was created! Then this person goes on the string lines with different tension, and hey, there are more melodies!
What I am trying to say here is, nothing we ever learn is not self taught. Yes we can go and find a well known teacher, and learn from the experts. but the experts themselves are also self taught, No one taught them what they cannot learn. As the proverbial saying goes ” When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.’
This is metaphorically true for us, personally. When we are ready to learn, we will teach ourselves, or find the appropriate learning channels.Until then we cannot force upon ourselves to learn, as ultimately we are free, we cannot be forced upon, as even when forced upon, is also a choice we embarked. We choose the choice of no choice.
We have to learn, that choice is our own empowerment. Nothing is structured, other than the structure we impose on ourselves. And we constantly internalize external structures upon ourselves, instead of externalizing our internal structures, our internal wants and desires. Strange things will happen when we decide, and we decide on our own free will, it becomes so scary to decide freely, free from consequences that we instinctively scurry back to the comforts of externally imposed constrains.
So we need to self teach ourselves, make our own rules, make our own realities, internally and use them to measure against the external realities. More of than not, we have a superior internal values, so why let society impose on us?