I was training with this young chap last evening and when we settled down to do our kokyu-ho. he was self reflecting about his disadvantages in height. You see, he’s on a tall side. (On the other hand, I’m short, so most people are taller than me.)
I corrected him saying that is his height. HIS height, he has to work with it, and accept it. It cannot be changed.
“Pros and cons.” he said.
I advised him to think more than. I told this young man. ‘Your cons will by my pro. So when you pro, it will be the other person con. And ironically, when you think of your pro, you’ll somehow attract more pros into your life!
It is all about mindset. While it is alright to be humble, it is not so alright if you sell yourself short. Pros and cons are fine, but it is not so fine when you think more cons than pros. then the balance is lost.
Physically, we cannot change who we are, we are tall, short, fat, skinny, missing and arm or leg. most of the physicality of who we are cannot be changed. BUT we can change our thinking, which in turn help the body cope with our physical limitations and maximise our physics.
Aikido is all that, using our best attributes to help us handle the worst the world throw at us. If we use our cons to deal with the troubles of the world, then we are in really deep quandary.